During my years in the guidance office, I knew that all parents loved their teens with all their hearts. Some just have more productive skills they use with their teens at home. These parenting skills can be learned and used at home with your teens. Just be patient with yourself and practice them consistently.
Involved parents assume their teen …
- has the ability and intelligence to learn on her own.
- is strong and has friends who are good influences on her.
- is able to solve life’s problems – with their help and guidance.
- is able to make wise decisions – with their help and guidance.
- is leaning how to negotiate and plan – with their help and guidance.
- is able to speak with a business-like voice, posture and emotion.
Interfering parents …
- see the situation as adversarial between the teacher and the student.
- display a lot of emotion to their teen regarding school.
- assume their teen is a victim of the teacher’s dislike.
- see the situation as isolated or a one-time occurrence instead of having a goal to solve the problem both long and short-term.
- assume their teen is unable to solve the problem and doesn’t guide him to learn how to solve problems.
assume their teen is providing accurate information but don’t look for all the facts.
What do you think?