“WOW! Karyn Rashoff wrote an amazing book chock full of excellent advice
to help both children and parents succeed in the difficult teen years. While this specifically addresses difficulties and solutions for problems in high school, it also has a wealth of information for parents of younger children. I have an 8th grade student, and I wish I had the opportunity to read this book several years ago to help instill certain study habits when she was younger.”
Amazon Review by T Thompson
October 9, 2014
Are Your Emotions Contagious?
Dorothy Foltz-Gray and Tony Schwartz
Be aware of the temperament and tone of your home. “Emotional contagion” affects all relationships, from marriage to business to professional sports. Try to under-react to your teen and not match his or her high emotional state. Try to be business-like.
Sometimes, creating distance can be most effective. Step back and think about the reasons for your teen’s distress and the best ways to cope with it. If you know the cause, you’ll have a better idea of what you can do to help, whether it’s leaving her alone for a few hours or making yourself available so she can vent.
Be your family’s CEO (Chief Energy Officer). Don’t allow yourself to be overly influenced by a destructive energy and then unconsciously communicate that energy to others in your home. Parents are leaders and impact the family by their moods. Negative emotions spread fast and are highly toxic! We can’t check our emotions at the door when we walk in the house, but it pays to be aware of what you’re feeling. You can’t change what you don’t notice. You can’t fake “positive” for long, so genuine matters.
Embrace realistic optimism. Have faith to tell the most hopeful and empowering story possible, but also be willing to confront difficult facts as they arise and deal with them directly. We don’t realize we’re being influenced by others’ emotions. Negative emotions are usually more catching than positive ones! One of the functions of sadness is to ask for help from others. Try to be tender and more attentive to your teen, even though he might be trying your patience at the end of a long day.
Karyn Rashoff’s first book Parents in Highschooland: Helping Students Succeed in the Critical Years is a caring and supportive account of her thirty-three years of dedicated work as a high school guidance counselor. Homework is a big issue at home, sometimes causing power struggles or warfare between teens and their parents.
In her career, during which she documented nearly 20,000 counseling interactions with students, parents, teachers and administrators, Karyn identifies, analyzes and resolves the complex and usually conflict-filled interactions between students and their parents in a selection of some 50 stories taken lovingly from “real life.”
On this website, you can read stories from Parents in Highschooland. Also, Karyn offers practical tips and suggests helpful resources for parents and educators. Check back regularly for more information including upcoming presentations, classes, and book signings.
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I invite you to send me your family’s personal success in Highschooland to possibly share with other readers in my future book. I look forward to hearing from you at firstname.lastname@example.org.