Category Archives: For Educators

Canyon Hills Branch Library, Anaheim Seminars – Fall 2015

Trying to Figure Out Your Highschooler?

Attend these two helpful seminars at Canyon Hills Branch Library, Anaheim for parents of teens and pre-teens, but also beneficial to educators and teens alike! Presented by Karyn Rashoff, author of the award-winning book “Parents in Highschooland: Helping Students Succeed in the Critical Years.”

Karyn Rashoff, author, high school guidance counselor, and an educator with 33 years of experience, will identify specific behaviors for school success. Ms. Rashoff will share tips, tricks, anecdotes and true stories of examples to help your child succeed in school.

Part 1: Help Your Highschooler Succeed
Wednesday, September 30, 2015
6:30 – 7:45 pm

Part 2: More Help: Share Your Successes
Wednesday, October 14, 2015
6:30 – 7:45 pm

Canyon Hills Branch Library, AnaheimCanyon Hills Branch Library
400 Scout Trail
Anaheim, CA 92807
714.765.6444
www.anaheim.net/library

Click here to read/print a flyer of the seminars.

Ms. Rashoff’s book will be available for sale after the program.

“This book should not only be required reading for parents with kids in high school, it should be required reading for every parent before their kids start school.” – San Francisco Book Review

Any person with a disability who requires an accommodation to participate in a program should direct such request to the Library, either in person or by telephone at 714.765.6444 at least 72 hours before the scheduled event.

Community Education Class in Irvine, CA – Spring 2015

  • Need help getting your teen or ‘tween to do homework?
  • Would you like a more peaceful home?
  • Are power struggles wearing you down?

Community Education Class in Irvine, CAIn this Irvine Valley College Community Education class, Karyn Rashoff, a veteran high school counselor of 33 years, teaches specific behaviors to use at home in the evenings to help guide your teen to focus on school. Parents, teens and educators benefit from discussion, role-playing, tip sheets, and Karyn’s book (provided free) to help take the “drama” out of homework.

Irvine Valley College Community Education
5500 Irvine Center Drive, Irvine, CA 92618

2 sessions, 2 hours each session: $50 per couple or individual
Each registration includes one copy of “Parents in Highschooland” and hand-outs.

REGISTER: Visit www.123getsmart.com or call 949.451.5555.

SCHEDULE – SPRING 2015:
#8419, Wednesdays, 4/1 and 4/8, Room A306
OR
#8420, Wednesdays, 5/6 and 5/13, Room A306
OR
#8421, Wednesdays, 5/20 and 5/27, Room A306.

Click here to read/print a flyer  (PDF file version).

Involved Parent or Interfering Parent?

involved parentDuring my years in the guidance office, I knew that all parents loved their teens with all their hearts. Some just have more productive skills they use with their teens at home. These parenting skills can be learned and used at home with your teens. Just be patient with yourself and practice them consistently.

Involved parents assume their teen …

  • has the ability and intelligence to learn on her own.
  • is strong and has friends who are good influences on her.
  • is able to solve life’s problems – with their help and guidance.
  • is able to make wise decisions – with their help and guidance.
  • is leaning how to negotiate and plan – with their help and guidance.
  • is able to speak with a business-like voice, posture and emotion.

Interfering parents

  • see the situation as adversarial between the teacher and the student.
  • display a lot of emotion to their teen regarding school.
  • assume their teen is a victim of the teacher’s dislike.
  • see the situation as isolated or a one-time occurrence instead of having a goal to solve the problem both long and short-term.
  • assume their teen is unable to solve the problem and doesn’t guide him to learn how to  solve problems.
    assume their teen is providing accurate information but don’t look for all the facts.

What do you think?

Is Homework a Hassle in Your Home?

Working on the ComputerYou’re not alone: it is in many homes. Wouldn’t it be great if your teens would study independently and efficiently without you having to nag and pester them all evening about homework? Studying and homework are hot buttons for teens and parents because there’s a lot at risk concerning school and power.

  • Try this: remove emotion from the homework issue. Yes, easy for me to say from here, but if you talk to your teen like you normally talk with your co-workers – reasonably, respectfully and calmly, without emotion – the drama is taken out of the interaction. I heard this often in my high school guidance office: “My parents treat me like a little kid; they don’t respect me so I don’t respect them.” Parents were often stunned by their teen saying this in the safety and comfort behind closed doors of an office.
  • If you respect them, they will respect you. The best teachers I knew were ones who respected their students by giving them enough independence to learn but still guide them if they needed help. They knew their names, shook their hands and held them to expectations and stuck with those expectations. If kids know your expectations, they know what to aim for.
  • Talk about your expectations for grades together. I knew a parent, who with all good intentions, said to her son in my office, “If you make straight A’s this semester, I’ll buy you a car.” Well… we were in my office because her son was making all D’s and F’s, so the expectation that he would earn straight A’s – something he had never done in his life – was not very realistic at all. Set realistic and attainable goals for grades together. Maybe all C’s would be realistic for him. We talked about sensible expectations, and they were negotiated nicely by mother and son.

 

Bribe Your Teen to Read this Summer

summer reading for teensWith summer vacation in full swing, your teen may look like a couch potato, letting time slip through his fingers while he meanders around the house or neighborhood with his friends. Here is one way to keep your teen engaged in learning – a fun way – during the summer: let him choose a book from a bookstore (used bookstores are great) or the library or an eBook and pay him to read it. What?? Did I say, “Pay him to read it”?? Let him choose how much; you might be surprised at his reasonable rate. On the other hand, he may want a new car for reading a book – to test you and get more information out of you. It seems that a teen tests us by pushing our buttons to see how far he can go, but it is really information-gathering.

Anyway, back to book-reading. Reading during the summer does these things:

  • increases vocabulary and spelling strength
  • provides quiet and solitude which is often lacking in teen lives
  • sends the strong message that reading is good and pleasant for its own sake
  • takes the reader to new places, people and events
  • offers intellectual stimulation to keep in practice for the school year.

You might want to have a little competition with your teen, seeing who can read the most books in the summer – it doesn’t matter what kind of book – just read! If you have several children, you can make a fun chart together and keep track of books read. Remember the Summer Reading for Teens Programs at the public libraries? Stop by and check those out; you can borrow their ideas to use with your own kids. What do you think?

 

 

Press Release: Trying to Figure Out Your Highschooler?

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

CONTACT: Karyn Rashoff, info@karynrashoff.com, 949–939–2549.

Trying to Figure Out Your Highschooler?
Here’s a Book You Can Use Tonight.

IRVINE, CA—September 1, 2013—Parents in Highschooland: Helping Students Succeed in the Critical Years, is Karyn Rashoff’s caring and supportive account of thirty-three years of dedicated work as a high school guidance counselor.

During her career, which began when she was only 23 years old, she documented nearly 20,000 counseling interactions with students, parents, teachers and administrators, and in this book  she identifies, analyzes and resolves the complex and usually conflict-filled interactions between students and their parents, using some fifty stories taken lovingly from ‘real life’.

Rashoff started her career as a middle and high school counselor in a rural town in Northern California, and over the years she has worked with students and families in large cities and in suburban high schools, as well, all the time realizing that parents—regardless of income, ethnicity, race or social status—just want the very best for their children’s education and lives.

“The source of many of these problems,” she observes, “is the simple lack of communication; parents and students just don’t speak the same language. In fact, all too often they just don’t speak.”

Concrete anecdotes and examples of positive things parents can do and have found successful in their homes and in their direct contact with school officials, teachers, coaches—and of course, their teens—are supplemented throughout the book by tips, interviews and true stories told by both students and parents.

To sum up, this book can be used as quick reference for ideas and approaches that parents and students may use immediately, both at home and in school.

Parents in Highschooland: Helping Students Succeed in the Critical Years ($12.95, ISBN: 978–0-9897606–1-4), a 176-page paperback published by BarkingDogBooks, is also available as an e-book, in bookstores, major book retailers and online booksellers.

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CONTACT: Karyn Rashoff, info@karynrashoff.com, 949–939–2549.